A few months ago, I picked up My Biggest Little Teacher (BLT) from school. She was really quiet in the back seat and I finally ask her what she was doing. She hands me an 81/2 x 11″ sheet of paper she has colored pink with the words, “Hate cannot drive out hate, only love can do that.” Its beautiful. At the next red light, I turn to ask her, “How did you come up with that?”. She casually states it is a quote from Martin Luther King. I ask her if she knows what it means, and she tells me, “its about being loving when others are hateful”. Needless to say, I was impressed, and it now dons the fridge.
Fast forward to last week… BLT comes home from school and tells me about a classmate that has been giving her a hard time. This particular classmate has been a thorn for BLT for 3 years… since she was 6. I always tell BLT this particular classmate is really her “biggest teacher”, and is teaching her about herself and how to deal with conflict. Worried I may get a big sigh and “mom, give me a break”, I took a chance and suggested she remember the beautiful quote from Martin Luther King that she wrote and put on the fridge. She gets very quiet for a moment, then looks at me and says, “I try, but I can’t seem to do it. It is so HARD!” I grin on the inside as I know she is preaching to the choir.
BLT decides the solution is to offer some form of love instead of arguing with her classmate. BLT tells me, “I think I’ll tell her, thank you for the lesson, and then walk away.” I agreed she should try it as long as she means it with her heart. BLT then says, “But, what if she just says, ‘what lesson? How stupid!’?” I asked BLT what she should do in that event. She thinks for a minute and says, “I’ll just say it again and then say, ‘you are a good soul.’ Then, she will just be confused and we won’t argue anymore.”
I smiled… “Brilliant!”
Now, if I could remember to do that!!! Opening the heart in the most frustrating and hurtful situations is true POWER. I can’t wait to see if it works for BLT. I can’t wait to try it out myself!
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