Now that my Biggest Little Teacher (BLT) is11 years old, her teachings have become much more subtle and powerful. She has not only taught me through the years how to be amazed and touched by the infinite, but how to recognize my truth in all events in life. BLT’s life purpose numerology is 9, which is all about “integrity and wisdom”. Well, integrity is what our family is constantly being taught. When she herself steps out of alignment with her inner truth or Universal truth, she tends to get “caught”. She has been “busted” on so many things already. When I was her age and younger I used to get away with all kinds of things… not my BLT!
This week, BLT forgot to turn in her field trip slip, send in the fee, and forgot a sack lunch. She became the first kid in her class to miss a field trip because of missing items. BLT was with her dad that day and I had printed out the information and reminded her to take to her dad. Well, seems she forgot entirely. Additionally, I was in the shower when school called looking for any last minute fix to get her on the 8 am bus. The school also reminded me that this was the second time this has happened this school year…
Now, this is normal 11 year old behavior but for me it is always a battle between the “guilts” and the “strict parent”. I want to make her feel ok and rescue her at all expense, yet I want to yell at her so she learns her lesson. When she called a few minutes later and asked, “Since I am just sitting here can you come pick me up?” I told her I needed to get more information and would get back to her. This is the first time I did not react with a super plan to rescue her or a super plan to make her feel bad about herself. Instead, I let it rest and simmer for a minute while I meditated and talked to God. It became clear that this may be one of those times when I let the lesson be the teacher an give her the dignity of her own uncomfortableness. This was not easy. I especially found it difficult because every sentence I wanted to say to her included criticism and judgement. I wanted to tell her, “Well you should have remembered your stuff, its not my fault!” or “You can just sit at school and suffer, maybe you’ll get it this time!” These reactions are all programs I’ve been running for a very long time.
After a long talk with God, I felt good about how to proceed. I had to be honest without humiliating. I simply told her that I had already made appointments and plans for the day and I would be there at the normal time. It felt wonderful to take care of myself and to respond instead of react. BLT was also given an opportunity to create a new groove in her subconscious regarding the consequences of choices.
Of course, chewing on the fact that I did not rescue her, I was sure pick up time was going to be full of quiet pouting… on the contrary! BLT was pleasant and cheerful as any other day. I thank BLT for teaching me how to remain in integrity at any cost!!!
My Biggest Little Teacher (BLT) blew me away Thursday night… we were once again at the dining table grinding over math problems. As usual she ended up in a bucket of tears. The poor girl hates to cry in front of people, so she bolts to the bathroom shuts the door and releases (I guess its the best place to release!LOL) . She comes out with red eyes and my heart melts. I ask her sit down and talk to me about how she is feeling. After a long silence she tells me, “Mom, I am the worst person in math in my entire class!” and the sobbing gets intense. I want to cry with her, my heart is tearing from top to bottom. Somehow I keep it together, and hold her hand as we talk. She says, “Mom its the worst to know I am the only one in class that needs help, no one else is as terrible in math at me – in my whole class!” She is so upset her body is lurching as she sobs. I just let her cry because I had no words that felt right. Instead of speaking, I began praying like a mad woman in my mind.
When the crying subsided I let her know I understood and we would work on it together – she did not have to go at it alone. I gave her examples of how I was the worst at physics my senior year in high school and the teacher used to pass our tests back to us and announce our grade with attitude as he put it on our desk. Talk about humiliating. “Ms. Wong D+!” UGH! So, I told her how I did not want to hear that again and I actually spent time at home focusing and studying. The next test I heard, “Ms. Wong… nice job B+… What happened?” BLT was curious. I pointed out how she is totally great at creative writing and drawing. She responded with, “Yeah, but that is not going to get me a grade to pass 5th grade!” Then she remembered, “Ms. Anita at school told me to write 10 positive things about myself and put it on a mirror.” I told her that was an excellent idea!!! I asked her to put her math aside and do it. She hesitated and asked, “What if I can’t think of 10 things positive about myself?” Because I can’t help myself I talked to her about how the subconscious mind believes what we tell it because it cannot tell the difference between truth and make believe, so we might as well tell it what we want even if we don’t totally believe it yet. Funny thing, she totally understood my “hypno talk”!LOL!!! I left the room and she wrote down 10 positive things about her self, put them on stickies and added additional tape for added security. She placed them on the mirror in our bathroom. When she was done we came back to the math… she finished the entire worksheet in 1/3 the time it took her to go through 3 problems! She got them right too. 🙂
Its times like these BLT reminds me just how powerful the heart and the subconscious are in our everyday lives. I was so glad to see that one of her sticky notes read, “I have God in me”. Positive energy works on such a grand scale that even I benefited from her process… every time I walk into the bathroom guess what I see…that’s right 10 positive things about Me!!!
Once again, listen to your children and notice the unexpected wisdom that will blow your socks off!
Jennifer Wong, CHt.
Group Meditation and Self-Hypnosis Instructor
“YOU CANNOT SOLVE ANY PROBLEM WITH THE SAME MIND WHICH CREATED IT” ~ ALBERT EINSTEIN