My Biggest Little Teacher (BLT) blew me away Thursday night… we were once again at the dining table grinding over math problems. As usual she ended up in a bucket of tears. The poor girl hates to cry in front of people, so she bolts to the bathroom shuts the door and releases (I guess its the best place to release!LOL) . She comes out with red eyes and my heart melts. I ask her sit down and talk to me about how she is feeling. After a long silence she tells me, “Mom, I am the worst person in math in my entire class!” and the sobbing gets intense. I want to cry with her, my heart is tearing from top to bottom. Somehow I keep it together, and hold her hand as we talk. She says, “Mom its the worst to know I am the only one in class that needs help, no one else is as terrible in math at me – in my whole class!” She is so upset her body is lurching as she sobs. I just let her cry because I had no words that felt right. Instead of speaking, I began praying like a mad woman in my mind.
When the crying subsided I let her know I understood and we would work on it together – she did not have to go at it alone. I gave her examples of how I was the worst at physics my senior year in high school and the teacher used to pass our tests back to us and announce our grade with attitude as he put it on our desk. Talk about humiliating. “Ms. Wong D+!” UGH! So, I told her how I did not want to hear that again and I actually spent time at home focusing and studying. The next test I heard, “Ms. Wong… nice job B+… What happened?” BLT was curious. I pointed out how she is totally great at creative writing and drawing. She responded with, “Yeah, but that is not going to get me a grade to pass 5th grade!” Then she remembered, “Ms. Anita at school told me to write 10 positive things about myself and put it on a mirror.” I told her that was an excellent idea!!! I asked her to put her math aside and do it. She hesitated and asked, “What if I can’t think of 10 things positive about myself?” Because I can’t help myself I talked to her about how the subconscious mind believes what we tell it because it cannot tell the difference between truth and make believe, so we might as well tell it what we want even if we don’t totally believe it yet. Funny thing, she totally understood my “hypno talk”!LOL!!! I left the room and she wrote down 10 positive things about her self, put them on stickies and added additional tape for added security. She placed them on the mirror in our bathroom. When she was done we came back to the math… she finished the entire worksheet in 1/3 the time it took her to go through 3 problems! She got them right too. 🙂
Its times like these BLT reminds me just how powerful the heart and the subconscious are in our everyday lives. I was so glad to see that one of her sticky notes read, “I have God in me”. Positive energy works on such a grand scale that even I benefited from her process… every time I walk into the bathroom guess what I see…that’s right 10 positive things about Me!!!
Once again, listen to your children and notice the unexpected wisdom that will blow your socks off!
Jennifer Wong, CHt.
Group Meditation and Self-Hypnosis Instructor
“YOU CANNOT SOLVE ANY PROBLEM WITH THE SAME MIND WHICH CREATED IT” ~ ALBERT EINSTEIN
Its a typical Tuesday morning, and I wake up with a feeling of anger and frustration. My typical M.O. is to take it out on those closest to me – subconsciously – or at least I tell myself so. Instead, on this particular Tuesday, I decide to lie in bed for an extra 15 minutes and repeat the Serenity Prayer over and over again. Each time breaking it down into smaller bytes. First, I go over each sentence, “God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change”. I realize the things I cannot change are all things outside of me – people and their behaviors in particular. I feel a little deflated because my ego is sure I know it all and can offer others – especially my significant other some pointers. Then I go to the second sentence, “The courage to change the things I can.” I become painfully aware that the only thing I can change is ME! My ego wants to suggest I am perfect and everyone else has the problem, what could I possibly change about myself? I move to the third sentence, “and the Wisdom to know the difference.” This is the topper and I slow way down. “Know the difference”, what does that mean exactly?
I repeat the Serenity Prayer in this manner over and over again, and suddenly out of left field, I feel this incredible sense of peace. I begin to “get it”. The ability to accept the things I cannot change, means I don’t have to change anyone or any situation! WOOT! WOOT! I can give it to my higher power and leave it alone. As a result, I get to increase my peace by having the courage to change my MIND about the whole thing! Yes, changing my perspective takes courage because my ego is strong and constant but, I can and do. As time passes, especially in this meditation, I receive the Wisdom to know the difference. So long as I make time for my higher power in my life, the wisdom comes naturally and I can make decisions and choices elegantly.
I open my eyes 15 short minutes later and feel like a whole new person. I did not have to figure out the answer to everyone’s problems or my own, I just had to stay focused on something positive for 15 minutes. That is about the length of time I’ve waited in line for coffee or lunch. I LOVE THIS!
May you give yourself the opportunity to take 15 minutes out of your day to celebrate in your connection to Source! Much peace and love.