“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best to make you just like everybody else means to fight the greatest battle there is to fight and never stop fighting- the battle to be yourself.”EE Cummings.
My Biggest Little Teacher (BLT) blew me away Thursday night… we were once again at the dining table grinding over math problems. As usual she ended up in a bucket of tears. The poor girl hates to cry in front of people, so she bolts to the bathroom shuts the door and releases (I guess its the best place to release!LOL) . She comes out with red eyes and my heart melts. I ask her sit down and talk to me about how she is feeling. After a long silence she tells me, “Mom, I am the worst person in math in my entire class!” and the sobbing gets intense. I want to cry with her, my heart is tearing from top to bottom. Somehow I keep it together, and hold her hand as we talk. She says, “Mom its the worst to know I am the only one in class that needs help, no one else is as terrible in math at me – in my whole class!” She is so upset her body is lurching as she sobs. I just let her cry because I had no words that felt right. Instead of speaking, I began praying like a mad woman in my mind.
When the crying subsided I let her know I understood and we would work on it together – she did not have to go at it alone. I gave her examples of how I was the worst at physics my senior year in high school and the teacher used to pass our tests back to us and announce our grade with attitude as he put it on our desk. Talk about humiliating. “Ms. Wong D+!” UGH! So, I told her how I did not want to hear that again and I actually spent time at home focusing and studying. The next test I heard, “Ms. Wong… nice job B+… What happened?” BLT was curious. I pointed out how she is totally great at creative writing and drawing. She responded with, “Yeah, but that is not going to get me a grade to pass 5th grade!” Then she remembered, “Ms. Anita at school told me to write 10 positive things about myself and put it on a mirror.” I told her that was an excellent idea!!! I asked her to put her math aside and do it. She hesitated and asked, “What if I can’t think of 10 things positive about myself?” Because I can’t help myself I talked to her about how the subconscious mind believes what we tell it because it cannot tell the difference between truth and make believe, so we might as well tell it what we want even if we don’t totally believe it yet. Funny thing, she totally understood my “hypno talk”!LOL!!! I left the room and she wrote down 10 positive things about her self, put them on stickies and added additional tape for added security. She placed them on the mirror in our bathroom. When she was done we came back to the math… she finished the entire worksheet in 1/3 the time it took her to go through 3 problems! She got them right too. 🙂
Its times like these BLT reminds me just how powerful the heart and the subconscious are in our everyday lives. I was so glad to see that one of her sticky notes read, “I have God in me”. Positive energy works on such a grand scale that even I benefited from her process… every time I walk into the bathroom guess what I see…that’s right 10 positive things about Me!!!
Once again, listen to your children and notice the unexpected wisdom that will blow your socks off!
Jennifer Wong, CHt.
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Today while re-reading “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success” by Deepak Chopra, I was reminded of the true meaning of Success. Even though I know this in my head, it has not fully expanded to my heart and therefore I forget! Sometimes I get driven by things that do not matter because I have an old fear- based program that tells me success is “the ability to make a good monetary living.” Then I think back to four short years ago when I was told by my doctor, “You are very lucky to be alive young lady”, and I realize all the money in the world would not have made a difference to my mind, body, or spirit in that moment. As a refresher, I wanted to share a couple paragraphs from Deepak’s book. May you feel peace hearing these truths.
“There are many aspects to success; material wealth is only one component. Moreover, success is a journey, not a destination. material abundance, in all its expressions, happens to be one of those things that makes the journey more enjoyable. But success also includes good health, energy and enthusiasm for life, fulfilling relationships, creative freedom, emotional and psychological stability, a sense of well-being, and peace of mind.
Even with the experience of all these things, we will remain unfulfilled unless we nurture the seeds of divinity inside us. In reality, we are divinity in disguise, and the gods and goddesses in embryo that are contained within us seek to be fully materialized. True success is therefore the experience of the miraculous. It is the unfolding of the divinity within us. It is the perception of divinity wherever we go, in whatever we perceive – in the eyes of a child, in the beautify of a flower, in the flight of a bird. When we begin to experience our life as the miraculous expression of divinity – not occasionally, but al the time – then we will know the true meaning of success.” ~ Deepak Chopra, “The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success”