Last week my BLT (Biggest Little Teacher) taught me the incredible lesson of TRUE BEAUTY. After her example, I kinda snickered at the things I do and feel are a ‘big deal’. I always think I have made a big difference when I do things like pick up trash on the beach or giving someone a hug that I’ve had relational challenges with, but BLT has taken the act of a “good deed” to a new authentic level.
Four weeks ago BLT started a new school- a middle school. She only knew one person in the entire school and it was a boy that she was not close to. She was very positive about meeting new people and figuring out how a new school works. She even expressed her desire to meet everyone in the class and not create a “group” of friends. So she was consciously sitting with different kids every day. Her idea worked and through the weeks she was able to meet and know many of the 28 students. Two weeks ago she mentioned one girl in her class did not like her. I asked how she knew this to be true and she said, “Well she makes these really rude comments to me and rolls her eyes whenever I say something or join a group she is already in.” I felt bad for my BLT, but I did not say much. Last week she told me how another girl in her class was explaining to her, “You know why she does not like you?” BLT said, “No, I don’t understand it.” The other girl said, “Because she is jealous of how pretty you are. She thinks she is ugly compared to you.” BLT was shocked because she thought the girl had the thickest pretties hair she had ever seen. So, a little later in the day BLT walked over to the girl who did not care for her and said, “Hi, do you have a minute to talk?” Fortunately the girls said, “Yes”. BLT began, “You know, I am sorry we have not been getting along so great. But, I guess I just feel a little jealous because you have such pretty hair and such pretty eyes. You are so pretty!” The other girl immediately responded, “I feel the same way about you!!” Then they hugged and as BLT put it, “We are friends now. And you know Mom, I was not lying, I really think her eyes and hair are super pretty!”. WOW! I sat there with tears rolling down my cheeks onto a huge smile. BLT, smiled and giggled as she knows how emotional I can be. I hugged her all up and told her how much I love her and how much she continues to teach me.
BLT has brought kindness and compassion to a new level for me. I asked myself for a few days if I had that kind of courage to swallow my own hurt feelings and go above and beyond to nurture another. Well, I am still asking myself that now. Can you just imagine how beautiful our world would be if pride was not revered as sacred, but kindness and compassion were?
Thanks again BLT!!! I LOVE YOU!!!
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